In no way, shape or form is this post condoning a husband abusing his wife. Violence in any form, is against the word of God!
Colossians 3:19 – Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
Ephesians 5:25 – Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
1 Peter 3:7 – Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
However, Jesus’ instructions to ‘turn the other cheek’, applies to both men and women, husbands and wives.
Matthew 5:38-39 – “You have heard that it was said, ‘Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.’ 39 But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to them the other cheek also.
A husband who does not obey the word of God, is not a reason for a wife to rebel against her husband.
1 Peter 3:1-6 – Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, 2when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. 3Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— 4rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. 5For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, 6as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.
Suffering as a servant of Christ is mandated for every believer – men and women, husbands and wives.
1 Peter 2:18-20 – Slaves, in reverent fear of God submit yourselves to your masters, not only to those who are good and considerate, but also to those who are harsh. 19 For it is commendable if someone bears up under the pain of unjust suffering because they are conscious of God. 20 But how is it to your credit if you receive a beating for doing wrong and endure it? But if you suffer for doing good and you endure it, this is commendable before God.
We must follow Christ’s example:
1 Peter 2:21-23 – 21 To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example that you should follow in his steps. 22 “He committed no sin, and no deceit was found in his mouth.” 23 When they hurled their insults at him, he did not retaliate; when he suffered, he made no threats. Instead, he entrusted himself to him who judges justly.
Romans 15:5-6 – 5 May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had, 6 so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.
1 John 2:6 – Whoever claims to live in him must live as Jesus did.
Yet somehow, today’s Christian society has made women and wives exempt from following the teachings of Jesus. We must not align ourselves with the cultural and traditional norms of today’s society over the Bible’s teachings. The bible does not allow a wife to separate/divorce her husband for any reason, even if she is being abused.
1 Corinthians 7:10 – To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband.
Mark 10:12 – And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.”
What Does The Bible Say About Divorce?
