Proverbs 14:1-18 – A wise woman builds her home, but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.
One of the most dangerous concepts to creep into the Christian world is the concept of ‘Love Languages’. There is only one way to show God and your husband love and that is to obey His word.
The only ‘Love Language’ a wife needs to know is what the Bible says about being a Godly wife. For wives, according to God, love means to submit to your husband in every way, simply because it is what God requires from a Godly wife. This is a wise woman. She guards her mind and her family from worldly concepts of what a Godly marriage looks like. The world labels her as being weak and brain-washed. Her husband is labeled as a control-freak but she will respond with God’s word.
The foolish Christian woman surrounds herself with like-minded foolish Christian women (and men). Many foolish Christians change the characteristics of God because they don’t want to accept biblical truth. They change God’s word and characteristics into something more pleasing and palatable. They weave biblical truths with worldly exceptions to create something perverse and truly detestable. Together, they fashion a god with their own hands and worship it. Foolish Christian wives accept worldly philosophies about what a healthy relationship looks like. And thus begins the process of tearing down her house with her own hands.
Ephesians 5:22-23 – Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Cont’d Proverbs 14:2Those who follow the right path fear the LORD; those who take the wrong path despise him.
Some Christian wives feel appalled at the thought of submitting to their husbands. They give excuses like, “You don’t know what he’s like!” and “He doesn’t deserve it!, “I will never submit to my husband!”. Know that you are not insulting your husband, you are following the wrong path and despising God.
3A fool’s proud talk becomes a rod that beats him, but the words of the wise keep them safe.
When a Christian wife feels proud to take part in society’s views about men and begins disrespecting her husband, she is slowly but surely, crafting a rod to beat herself. Her foolish talk and beliefs will come back to embarrass her one day. This is because a husband will tolerate a wife’s disrespect for only so long. Until one day, it manifests in adultery, abuse or divorce. She will be left with the shame of following the world’s wisdom.
6A mocker seeks wisdom and never finds it, but knowledge comes easily to those with understanding.
Christian wives who think it is okay to mock and make fun of their husbands abilities (or lack thereof) surround themselves with like-minded individuals. Together, they encourage each other with foolish understanding and among them there is no lack of fools. A wife who claims to be a Christian but mocks God’s word in relation to submitting to her husband, is the fool who seeks wisdom but never finds it.
7Stay away from fools, for you won’t find knowledge on their lips.
Be careful of the people you surround yourself with. You may be part of a family who does not fear the Lord. You may have friends and relatives who believe in the feminist movement over scripture. As you begin to build your home, it is important to lay a solid foundation, built in obedience to God’s word.
8The prudent understand where they are going, but fools deceive themselves.
Many people may ridicule a wife for deciding to submit to her husband. But a wise woman understands what she is doing. A wise wife knows that creating a marriage based on God’s word will stand the test of time. Godly wives understand that the path they chose to walk will lead to eternal life.
9Fools make fun of guilt, but the godly acknowledge it and seek reconciliation.
Do not be afraid of the guilt you feel when God convicts you of being a rebellious and quarrelsome wife. Receive that correction with joy. Turn that rebuke into praises! For God chastises those He loves! Do not become unsettled by what the Holy Spirit is asking you to change in your behavior towards your husband. Acknowledge the wrong you have done, ask God for forgiveness and reconcile yourself to your husband.
10Each heart knows its own bitterness, and no one else can fully share its joy.
11The house of the wicked will be destroyed, but the tent of the godly will flourish.
Make no mistake, every ungodly marriage will be destroyed. But any home that was built on the foundation of God’s word will not only stand, it will flourish!
12There is a path before each person that seems right, but it ends in death.
13Laughter can conceal a heavy heart, but when the laughter ends, the grief remains.
Society makes being a feminist look glamorous and free. The world’s concept of a good wife is not completely ridiculous. The bible says, “all the ways of man appear right in his own eyes” (Prov. 16:2). Of course it makes sense to every woman because it plays on our weaknesses. Every woman wants to feel free to do what they want. Every woman wants to put themselves first and tend to their own needs first. Every wife wants to be equal to her husband. As the scripture says, all of these things seem to be right but it ends in death.
15Only simpletons believe everything they’re told! The prudent carefully consider their steps.
16The wise are cautiousa and avoid danger; fools plunge ahead with reckless confidence.
Only a foolish wife will believe the world’s concept of what a Godly wife is over God’s actual word. Meanwhile, a prudent wife will carefully consider the marital advice she is given. Even if and especially if, it is being given by other Christians. She will carefully consider whether what she is being advised is biblical or not. But a foolish wife will plunge forth in her foolish belief with glee. She willingly heads down the path leading to her own destruction.
17Short-tempered people do foolish things, and schemers are hated.
18Simpletons are clothed with foolishness, but the prudent are crowned with knowledge.
No one said being a Godly wife would be easy. Submitting to your husband and seeing to it that you respect him, is absolutely against all worldly wisdom. In the bible, wives are even likened to slaves, because they have to submit to their husbands. Remember though, we fool ourselves to think that we would not be slaves otherwise. We will always be either a slave to sin when we reject God’s word and follow our own desires. Or we will be slaves to righteousness when we set aside our own beliefs, needs and desires and offer ourselves in submission as Godly wives, to our husbands. In Romans 6:16-23 the bible says:
Romans 6:16-23 – 16 Don’t you know that when you offer yourselves to someone as obedient slaves, you are slaves of the one you obey—whether you are slaves to sin, which leads to death, or to obedience, which leads to righteousness? 17 But thanks be to God that, though you used to be slaves to sin, you have come to obey from your heart the pattern of teaching that has now claimed your allegiance. 18 You have been set free from sin and have become slaves to righteousness.
As Godly wives, we are slaves to righteousness. A slave never thinks of themselves. It is their Master who occupies all their thoughts and directs their actions. Let us all strive to be wives of noble character. Wives who do their husbands good and not harm (Prov. 31:12). Let us clothe ourselves with strength and dignity. Let us fear the Lord so that we may be praised and honored for the work we have done! Amen.
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